Thursday, January 17, 2013

Pondering - Loving Thyself

Thanks to Brenda for hosting Pondering. This week's theme is:

Do you love yourself?

This is an important question.  One of the keys to happiness in life is to feel love and respected by others however, I believe that in order for that to happen, one must love and respect themselves first.  I am not talking about arrogance or bravado but people who genuinely give off an aura of self confidence are very attractive to others.  So how does one get to that point? I call it the mirror test.

The mirror test is really simple, I look in the mirror each day and ask myself a few simple questions.  Were my actions yesterday respectful towards myself?  Did I act in an honorable way towards others.  Did I demonstrate a caring and compassionate manner?   Was I empathetic towards others?  Is the world a slightly better place as a result of my actions yesterday?  Then I ask myself;  Did I do anything yesterday to improve myself?  Did I try to become a better dad?  Did I work on becoming a better husband?  Did I explore new ideas?  Did I try to become wiser? Have I done anything to create the possibility that I could make an ever greater contribution to the world tomorrow?

I have found that the mirror test pushes me to keep moving forward.  I know when the person staring back from the glass is not being truthful - one cannot and should not try to hide from themselves - if they want to truly want to be a person worth loving.  I have found in my life that if I feel like I am genuinely trying to be a good person who is trying to be the best that I can be, I can walk around with my head held high.  My confidence increases and my thoughts become clearer.  This creates a positive environment that others are who are also positive are attracted to.  Those people then become willing to help and work with me to keep moving forward. This creates a self-perpetuating loop where my work to make others lives better results in my life becoming happy and fulfilling one as a result. It creates the ultimate win-win situation but it has to start with truly loving oneself.

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