This is an important question. One of the keys to happiness in life is to feel love and respected by others however, I believe that in order for that to happen, one must love and respect themselves first. I am not talking about arrogance or bravado but people who genuinely give off an aura of self confidence are very attractive to others. So how does one get to that point? I call it the mirror test.
The mirror test is really simple, I look in the mirror each day and ask myself a few simple questions. Were my actions yesterday respectful towards myself? Did I act in an honorable way towards others. Did I demonstrate a caring and compassionate manner? Was I empathetic towards others? Is the world a slightly better place as a result of my actions yesterday? Then I ask myself; Did I do anything yesterday to improve myself? Did I try to become a better dad? Did I work on becoming a better husband? Did I explore new ideas? Did I try to become wiser? Have I done anything to create the possibility that I could make an ever greater contribution to the world tomorrow?
I have found that the mirror test pushes me to keep moving forward. I know when the person staring back from the glass is not being truthful - one cannot and should not try to hide from themselves - if they want to truly want to be a person worth loving. I have found in my life that if I feel like I am genuinely trying to be a good person who is trying to be the best that I can be, I can walk around with my head held high. My confidence increases and my thoughts become clearer. This creates a positive environment that others are who are also positive are attracted to. Those people then become willing to help and work with me to keep moving forward. This creates a self-perpetuating loop where my work to make others lives better results in my life becoming happy and fulfilling one as a result. It creates the ultimate win-win situation but it has to start with truly loving oneself.